Wednesday, May 10, 2006

Oh, how time flies...

When I started “Salacious Desires”--a year ago this month, can you believe that? Time sure flies when you’re having fun (and well, even when you’re not)--my reasons were vast, my intentions were good and my situation was, for lack of a better phrase, complexly simple. And for the most part, it still is. Sure, there have been changes--some good, some bad--in me, in my life, in my marriage--pretty much everywhere--and if I’m being honest, I’m not sorry for any of those changes, even the ones that hurt my heart. Why? Because life, while fascinating and wonderful, isn’t all starlight and moonbeams and it certainly isn’t a walk in the park, it’s tragic and blissful and somber and playful and dispiriting and thrilling--it’s a roller coaster of emotions I want to ride again and again and again, so how can I be sorry for taking that ride, even when it hurts? I can‘t.

But as “Salacious Desires” moves out of its first year and into its second, I don’t want to talk about the changes--good or bad--this year has brought me because some are entirely too personal to recount here and some I’ve already brought to light. So instead of hashing and rehashing all the changes, discoveries, memories and milestones that have occurred in my life since I started this blog, I’ve decided to do something a bit different.

So to commemorate the birth of “Salacious Desires”, I give you 50 things (in no particular order, meaning, I‘m all over the place, but that‘s me--scatterbrained) about SD that you probably don’t know and more than likely could have gone the rest of your life without knowing.



1. I was born under the astrological sign Leo--a fixed, fire sign ruled by the sun. I can, in typical Leo fashion, be very stubborn, ridiculously lazy, overly dramatic and insufferably arrogant. But I can be warm, gentle, loving and loyal too.

2. I share my birthday with Percy Bysshe Shelley, who wrote "Love's Philosophy", one of my favorite poems.

3. The year? Well, I'm not sharing, a girl's gotta have some secrets, yes? But I imagine I'm either younger or older than you think. Anyone care to guess?

4. Because there's some slight confusion as to my "status", I am still married, but we are and have been separated for quite some time.

5. And yes, my husband knows about my relationship with
Dane--there are no secrets, lies or deception between any of us.

6. I have one child of the male species, who happens to be the love of my life. And though, when I was younger, I wanted a whole houseful of happy little children, I do believe I've changed my mind.

7. I hate the sun, but I love the beach, hence the reason I typically only go there at night. Besides, it's so much more enchanting to gaze at the stars twinkling overhead as the heady scent of the ocean intoxicates me and the soft, almost sultry sound of the surf kisses the shore. Sigh.

8. I have an odd affection for wind chimes, which makes absolutely no sense because in the middle of the night, when they get to chiming madly, they keep me awake. But no matter, I think they're beautiful.

9. I love sunflowers, lots and lots of sunflowers. And lilies. And purple roses.

10. I love to read all kinds of things, but I'm a sucker for a good romance or a nail biting murder mystery.

11. I don't do mornings. Seriously. I detest them--the birds chirping, the sun slipping through the slats on the curtains, blah, blah, blah... Ugh. No thanks.

12. My favorite color is emerald green, but baby blue does it for me too.

13. And I don't particularly look good in either of those colors, earth tones are more my style.

14. I'm blonde--everywhere, from top to bottom.

15. And I love it because when I get lazy (which is often) and neglect to shave my legs, no ones the wiser.

16. I'm addicted to coffee--I can't live without it.

17. I can't cook.

18. But I can bake with the best of them. Anybody want some cookies? Or perhaps you'd like some brownies? A cake? No problem.

19. I lost my virginity in the front seat of a Buick Century when I was a naïve 16 year old girl and it was the messiest, most awkward, anticlimactic experience of my life.

20. I stayed with my 1st lover until I was 18 and the poor boy never did figure out how to make me come, not for lack of trying though.

21. Nor did my 2nd, 3rd, 5th and 6th lovers. No orgasms for SD (well, none that weren’t self-induced). Sucked to be me.

22. My 4th lover (who happens to be the man I ended up marrying) is, to date, the only man who has been able to physically make me come.

(Pop Quiz: Let’s see who was paying attention… How many lovers (of the male species) has SD had?)

23. But
Dane, my love, has made me come (soft, hard, intense, toe curling, sheet grabbing, hip arching orgasms) countless times and he’s yet to physically touch me. Sigh. The mind can be a powerful thing.

24. I have been intimate with a woman, only once, but it was one of the most sensual sexual experiences I’ve had. I absolutely must do it again sometime and I know just the
woman I’d love to help me out with that.

25. I’ve never had a threesome of any kind (not in reality anyway), and mores the pity on that because it looks like it’d be great fun.

26. But I did graciously lend my mouth to this lovely lady who thought it’d be a cool idea if we simultaneously blew her boyfriend. And that was great fun.

27. I love being taken from behind, it’s one of my favorite positions, and for reasons that elude me, it seriously turns me on if you (lightly) spank me while you‘re doing it.

28. I have a slightly odd penchant for hot candle wax too. I dunno?

29. I’m short, annoyingly so.

30. My eyes are hazel, but they tend to stay more towards the green side of the color spectrum.

31. I love my feet, seriously, I do. They’re tiny and cute and look great in flip flops or sandals or nothing.

32. And I absolutely love having my toes sucked (don’t ask, I have no clue).

33. Oh, and having my hair pulled, but not hard--softly, gently… yes, just like that. Mmm.

34. I have a filthy, nasty, dirty mouth and while I know it’s not ladylike, I don’t particularly care.

35. I’m somewhat boisterous during sex, but I’m not a talker more of a moaner.

36. I love to sing, but since I can’t sing without damaging peoples sensitive ears, I typically keep it to showers and solo car rides.

37. I cry noisy, loud and often, it’s a wonderful stress reliever.

38. My taste in music is wide and varied, but lately I’ve been stuck on these sappy, overly sentimental love songs.

39. And this would be because as jaded as I like to insinuate I am, I’m really just a hopeless romantic.

40. I’m more than a little obsessed with greeting cards--I love the damn things. I popped into Hallmark last weekend to pick up a card for my mom, my sister and Dane’s wife and what should have been a simple, fairly quick card run turned into and hour and a half of “Oohing and Aahing” over a bunch of sappy cards.

41. And bookmarks too. I have so many bookmarks, I could open up my own damn store, but it’s not my fault really, I mean, if they wouldn’t make the silly things so bloody cute, I wouldn’t be tempted to buy them.

42. I adore glittery things--lip gloss, body lotion, shower gel, body spray, the list goes on…

43. I hate (hate, hate, hate) beer, but I love (love, love, love) mixed drinks (particularly Midori Sours). YUM.

44. And since I can’t hold my alcohol for shit, I get a bit lax with my inhibitions and my mouth when I’ve had more than a couple drinks. And I swear, alcohol’s better than truth serum.

45. I’m a Democrat, but in conversation, I avoid sticky (or more accurately most) political issues because when it comes to politics people are all over the map and if your belief, opinion (what have you) is so far OFF the map that it annoys me, I tend to get bitchy about it.

46. When I was itty bitty, I wanted to be a nurse and then a teacher and then an actress and then a writer, but ironically, I’m non of the above.

47. What I am (as unexciting as it is) is an administrative assistant. Yee Haw.

48. I love blue eyes, they’re so beautiful and bewitching, they make me melt.

49. I’m a snuggler. I love to hold and be held.

50. And making out is, by far, my favorite thing to do. If done right, I could spend hours (literally) losing myself in a kiss. It’s so yummy and good.


So there you have it. And if I inadvertently skipped a number or miscounted, no problems, we’ll just blame it on the fact that I’m blonde AND scatterbrained.

Before I wrap this up, I’d like to say thanks to all of you who pass through here daily (whether you ever choose to speak up or are more comfortable to simply lurk) for sticking with me because without you, I’d just be talking to myself and what fun is that? You’re all super-fantastic!

Dane, whom I love so very very much (you know, back in September, I told him that I wasn't "in love" with him, but (and I wouldn't blame him if he wanted to take a leaping run in the other direction), I can't say that anymore--I am) and is, without question, one of the best friends I’ve ever had and Jeff, my sweet sweet friend, who’s been there for me selflessly through both good and bad times without fail and Nina, who is not only unabashedly sexy, but is one kickass friend as well. I love the three of you emphatically. I truly do. Thank you for everything.

Alright, enough with the sappy stuff, I’m out.

Posted by SD at 12:12 PM


  1. Blogger Jeff posted at 5:27 PM, May 10, 2006  

    I love you. And there's something special for you someplace else.

    Congratulations on a wonderful year. You're my beautiful friend, and I'm very proud of you.

    - Jeff
  2. Blogger Nina posted at 7:32 PM, May 10, 2006  
    My angel,
    Congratulations on your big day!

    You know what a stickler for detail I am, so don't be offended if I point out a few things you left off your list.

    51-You're beautiful
    52-You're unbelievably hot!
    53-You're a talented and gifted writer
    54-Your character and integrity are beyond reproach
    55-Your lips are the most luscious I have ever seen
    56-Your heart is as deep as the ocean
    57-Love pours from your heart like a raging waterfall, crystal clear and pure.
    58-You're an amazing mother. I know this by the sparkle in that child's eyes and the happiness that eminates from his gorgeous smile! I'll bet he 's a little devil too! haha
    59-You have the most lovely eyes, pools of liquid love
    60-Your hair is spun of the finest silk, If I could, I would cover my body with your golden tresses.
    61-Your writing is thought provoking, sincere, honest, emotional, raw, evocative, witty, intelligent and so very fucking hot!
    62- I could go on, but I will leave some room for all of your many friends and admirers. But no-one loves ya more than me baby!

    kisses and great big hugs...
  3. Blogger SD posted at 9:25 PM, May 10, 2006  
    Jeff... Thank you for the incredibly beautiful gift, my friend. It had the happy tears flowing. And you're special too, you always have been, you always will be. I love you too.

    Nina...Thank you for that, gorgeous. It has the happy tears stirring again. And I've got to tell you, #60 sounds heavenly, I'm thinking we should definitely try that. And while I don't have many friends and admirers (a lot of lurkers though), I do consider you a friend, one of the best. You're beautiful all the way through.

    *Kisses* and *Hugs* for the both of you!
  4. Blogger Aragorn posted at 4:58 AM, May 11, 2006  
    What a beautiful list dear !! Watching stars while on a beech, is there anything more beautiful ? I’ll sign up for the cookies, the toe-suck, the mixed drinks, and a few others ... Lovely ! (I have already signed up for Nina, as you will see some time soon ;-). Agreeing with Nina, I have to add: 63 - you have beautiful lips ... !

    Glad I met you,
    You inspired us,

    Many more happy years, in blogland and everywhere !!

    Big hugs !
    A & O
  5. Anonymous WM posted at 9:26 PM, May 11, 2006  
    Congratulations on your hitting the year mark.

    That was a great list, thank you for sharing it, and sharing your writing this past year.
  6. Blogger Dane posted at 12:08 AM, May 13, 2006  
    Darling ... so much to take note of ...

    Thank you for sharing this; these lists usually bore me. I think now I realize that the more emotional investment I have in the person, the more interesting these become, and the more useful.
  7. Blogger Jeff posted at 12:59 PM, May 14, 2006  
    Happy Mother's Day Sweetpea!

    I miss you!

  8. Blogger girlzoot posted at 2:08 PM, May 14, 2006  
    Congratz on a year.
  9. Blogger SD posted at 7:42 AM, May 15, 2006  
    Aragorn & Orchid... No, there is nothing more beautiful than watching the stars twinkle overhead on a beach with the sand tickling my toes and the water lapping softly against the shore (sigh), well, unless, of course, you happened to be wrapped up in the arms of your lover, for that, I have no words, it's beyond beauty. Cookies--Check. Toe Suck--Check (Mmm). Mixed Drinks--Check (absolutely, what fun). And thank you both for being such lovely friends throughout the year, I have been inspired by both of you just as much as I've been inspiring. Big Hugs, Kisses & Much Love!!!

    WM... You're welcome and thank you for the lovely comments, I'm happy you enjoyed it (I figured most people would slip into a coma out of boredom) on my list and my writing.

    Dane... Useful, huh? Do tell. And you know, take a month or two, you've been with me for most of the past year. It's been lovely and I've grown to love you more than I could possibly express. Thank you, baby.

    Jeff... I missed you too! I'm happy to be back and super-excited about you know what (hee hee--it'll be so much fun, I just know it)! I love you, my friend! *Kisses* back atcha!

    girlzoot... Thank you very much (*smile*).
  10. Blogger Desire X posted at 12:16 PM, May 15, 2006  
    Has it really been a year?
    It seems like so much longer.

    This little circle has been embracing, sharing and loving for what seems like a much longer time. All of the changes we have all undergone together, all of the secrets that we share make it almost family.

    Love you SD!

  11. Blogger SD posted at 7:44 AM, May 19, 2006  
    HER... Thank you, sweetheart! And you're so right, like a family! It's lovely.

    I love ya back!

  12. Anonymous Body Heat Cherry posted at 6:05 PM, May 19, 2009  
    Congrats on the special day

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